The Importance Of Showing Yourself Love On Valentine’s Day

The Importance Of Showing Yourself Love On Valentine’s Day

Valentine's day is the one day of the year dedicated to romantic love. For many, it is a fun day celebrating their love and relationship with their partner. For others, it is a day that reminds them they are single.

Spending Valentine's Day alone may make you feel lonely. No matter how hard you try, you cannot escape being bombarded by targeted advertisements and images of happy couples. According to a survey conducted by the dating app Plenty of Fish, 43% of singles consider Valentine's Day the most pressure-filled holiday (Smith, 2022). Some may even argue that a greater amount of societal pressure is placed on single people on Valentine's Day compared to couples.

There are numerous reasons why you might be alone on Valentine's Day. It could be because you chose to be single or you are just not interested in a relationship. There is also the possibility that you are single due to the circumstances of your life, which is beyond your control. Additionally, not all couples can be together on Valentine's Day. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you might also spend Valentine's Day alone.

If you are alone on Valentine’s Day, it is also common to feel sensitive to other people’s impression of yourself. You might feel pressure to act like you’re delighted about being single on Valentine’s Day out of fear that you might be seen as bitter in the eyes of those who celebrate.

However, Valentine's Day can still be enjoyable for people who are celebrating alone. The best way to manage loneliness on this day is by shifting your focus towards enjoying yourself, regardless of your relationship status!

If you’re struggling with loneliness on Valentine’s Day, here are some things you can do.

1. Avoid love triggers

You may feel even more lonely on Valentine's Day if you watch romantic movies or listen to love songs. It is possible to feel sad during this holiday if your relationship recently ended or if you’re spending it alone not out of choice. As Valentine's Day approaches, try watching movies or shows and listening to songs of different genres instead.

2. Plan a date with single friends

If you have other single friends who feel lonely on Valentine's Day, try planning a date night with them. Being with friends going through the same situation as you may help ease your loneliness. Engage in bonding activities such as playing games, watching movies, or cooking together.

Spending quality time with other important people in your life such as your friends and family can help in making you feel loved on this day.

3. Make other plans

Plan a day that revolves around activities and hobbies unrelated to Valentine's Day. For example, you might enjoy trying a new workout or hiking. Having plans that do not revolve around the holiday will shift your attention to yourself and help you relish your alone time. Also, doing something memorable will help you redefine the date to give you something more to celebrate each year beyond Valentine's Day.


Valentine's Day can be difficult for anybody, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. It is important to remember that you can redefine the date to make it a day you will look forward to instead. If you are struggling with severe feelings of loneliness, consider reaching out to psychotherapy services that can help provide you with healthy coping mechanisms. Such services also offer psychological assessments to understand the extent and nature of an individual's challenges.

Finally, if you are spending February 14th alone this year, remember that having a healthy relationship with yourself is more important than anybody else. Try to show yourself some extra care, love and compassion this Valentine's Day.


Smith, L. (2022). Plenty Of Fish Finds Gen Z and Millennial Singles Are Looking For New Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day